Sunday, May 7, 2017

Hey Hon


Hey hon,

How's it goin' up there? How're Mama and Papa and Laura and Aunt Alberta and Auntie Rosemary and G'ma Harvey? Have you met Aunt Beanie and Maazie and Grandmother and Granddaddy Whitely and Granddaddy Hall? And BooBoo and Aunt Gertrude and Aunt Ida Mae? They're fun aren't they? I bet you love how Aunt Beanie can tell a story and just laugh and laugh... I also bet you and Laura are laughin' and tellin' some good stories, too.

I bet you're catchin' up with all kindsa people. Have you seen Kirk? And Zachary? What about Kyle? And tell Dottie we miss her at 1st Pres. Rosalie just got there recently. Hug her neck and tell her I said "hey!" Yesterday I was with a buncha people who celebrated her life....And look for my friend's father, Tom. He just got up there a few days ago. He is a good guy! I think you'll like him a lot, too.

Hey! Hate to bother you with earthly things...but can you give me a little direction on some housey things and some business things? The prō-jects (as you would say) that need doin' are slightly out of my comfort zone so I'm thinkin' it'd be helpful if you could send some guidance my way. 

And, if you don't mind puttin' in a good word for me, I'd appreciate some help from The Big Guy, too. There are things I just don't feel qualified to handle... 

Sure do miss you. Wish you were here with me... to do housey things and to sit near me and do your business stuff that I didn't understand... 

I love you, Harv. 

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Life



funny how life goes...

you're young
you wanna grow up

you do

you're excited about everything
you go places
you do things
you meet people

meanwhile...

your parents are doin' their thing
trying to love you
take care of you
keep you safe
encourage you to grow up

hopin' you're doin' what you love and that you're growin' up like you should
missin' you every time you take a step in the direction of growin' up

then you do grow up

you have children of your own

you want 'em to grow up and do things and love life

they do

all of a sudden you understand just a tiny bit of what your parents must've felt...

your children are on their way to being pretty grown up
you're proud and impressed with them and want 'em to keep experiencing the good things in life

you want 'em to grow up and stay young
all at the same time

Tuesday, March 28, 2017



Once upon a time a little girl was born in Atlanta, GA... She grew up and kept hoping that she'd meet Mr. Right. She stumbled and bumbled and made some mistakes...

One day she went to Epcot in Orlando, FL and saw a movie all about Canada. She thought, "I wanna go to Canada someday."

She stumbled and bumbled and made some mistakes.

She taught school. She resigned from teaching school.

She moved to Washington, DC.

She moved to Montgomery, AL.

She met a boy from British Columbia, Canada.

CANADA?!

Canada!

Things miraculously worked out that she and the boy from Canada liked each other.

They liked each other a lot.

They hung out with each other.

They hung out with each other a lot.


They decided they wanted to hang out with each other forever.

They got married.

They moved to the opposite corner of the country from where she grew up to be near his little girl.

They added twin little baby girls to the family.

They laughed. They cried. They sometimes got annoyed with each other.

They loved each other.

They loved each other a lot.

They got a little bit older.

Their children got a little bit older.

They lived a lot of life.

He got sick.

She tried to take care of him.

She loved him.

She loved him a lot.

She couldn't save him.

He went to heaven.

She stayed here...

He stayed in her heart.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Treasures


Almost 20 years ago, I met lots and lots of people who stopped me as I was walking my girls in their double stroller. Usually they'd ask "Are they twins?" One time my father told somebody who stopped to peek in the stroller that "We charge 25¢ to look." Occasionally, someone would say, "I have twins. They're xx years old now." And, they would often want to talk about their twins with matching names or their fraternal twins or identical twins. 

I know I'm biased, but I can see why they wanted to look at my babies... not only were they matchy little babies; they were beautiful (if I do say so myself). 

The ones who always got to me, though, were the ones who would say "Treasure these times. They go so fast."  For the mother in the thick of trying to raise little twin baby girls, the time was not flying by... or it sure didn't seem like it. There were lots of diapers to change, bottles to feed, clothes to wash, picky eaters to figure out / handle / ignore, nap times to manage, baby brains to develop, etc. There was lots and lots of "the everyday" every day.  "The everyday" was more intense when Harv traveled for work... and that was fairly often. It was more intense when they were little bitty babies, but everything seemed MORE when I was doing it by myself.

When Harv got sick, I knew I should be treasuring the moments that we had 'cause we didn't know how many moments we'd get... But the truth is (and I think I've said it before), I didn't want to "force" the treasuring of the moments... I wanted to just live as regular a life as I could -- which would sometimes include grumpiness and not-treasuring.

I think I've said this before, too, but I kinda thought that after over a year with some drastic changes in "the everyday," that I would sort of settle into a routine and things would feel "normal." 

First of all, it's still not normal that Harv's not here... especially when I want to discuss politics, or annoyances, or our children's lives, or my insecurities, or I wanna go for a walk with him or I want HIM to take the dogs for a walk so I don't have to... It's not normal that I am celebrating various birthdays and holidays without him. 

But second of all, I haven't really figured out how to be okay with my children no longer living at home. I am very fortunate to have them close by... I see them fairly often -- which I really am thankful for... But every day they mature and make new decisions and do things on their own and make plans that don't include me... And even when I have wonderful advice to give, they often want to do things their own way... (which is as it should be -- even though I have some excellent suggestions!).

This post is not really about my children; it's about me... I'm trying to learn how to be me...all by myself... What do I want to do? Where do I want to go? How do I make giant decisions alone? How do I learn to enjoy meals with just me?  What can I do that feels like I'm contributing? When am I gonna be ready to contribute and try something brand new? I keep thinking that a year is long enough, but I'm beginning to think it's not... at least not for me... 

But what I've realized recently is that those people who told me to "treasure these moments" were right.  The moments do go pretty quickly. Little baby girls DO grow up and need me less... (which is as it should be)...

So, these days I'm praying for eyes to see and ears to hear all the good around me and to TREASURE all of it...and to be ready for whatever the next thing is...and to figure out how to be the best mama I can be at every stage of our children's lives... for them and for me.

 
True words in this song. ❤️

Monday, January 2, 2017

GoFightWin, Country!!


In a few weeks, we will have a new President of the United States. 

I'm trying to worry less in 2017 than I usually do, but his impending presidency really concerns me. I'm trying to find the balance between being informed and being overwhelmed with a feeling of doom. 

There are people out there in the world whom I love who voted for this man. They believe he was the better choice. Their conscience dictated that they vote for the party even if they may not agree with everything about this man. I can respect their commitment to their values -- even if we have different values.

But from where I sit, I don't see a man who is committed to this country. I see an egomaniac who puts himself and his gain over that of the country and perhaps the world. He hasn't yet demonstrated that he's looking out for our environment and the well-being of those who are called the "working class." He has selected cabinet members who don't have a history of looking out for the interests of minorities and those at an economic and social disadvantage. He appears to be in cahoots with the leader of another country who also seems self-absorbed and very dangerous. Our future president won't share his tax records with us -- which every other president has done. He seems to have multiple conflicts of interest. He has yet to actually have a press conference where we can actually hear him discuss his plans. He TWEETS seemingly his every thought. He TWEETS. That means he only communicates with 140 characters or less. Not much depth of thought in a 140 characters.  

It SEEMS as if leaders of his party, though they don't necessarily think everything he's doing is above-board, won't hold him accountable to high standards. They repeatedly allow him to get away with things that they wouldn't allow from a leader of the other party. 

All of the American people deserve to have a leader who puts country above himself. We deserve a leader who will abide by the laws and expectations that have been upheld by previous country leaders. We deserve a leader we can trust to stand by protocol when dealing with leaders of other countries or when conducting world-wide business. 

I know that the same friends of mine who voted for this man did not vote for the current president... There were other years when my candidate didn't win. But never before -- even when I was very opposed to the elected president  --  have I been as concerned for our country as I am today. 

Somehow, though, I have to continue to hope...to find the good in this scary place...and so I'm gonna create, love my people, smile at strangers, and keep looking for the things that make this world safe and happy and secure. 

I'm gonna pray. I'm gonna pray for my family, my friends, my community, my nation, my world. I'm gonna pray for this man who will be our leader and those closest to him -- even though it's gonna be hard for me -- because I see a lonely, scared, fragile man who is trying to act and feel important...

But he's not more important than the rest of us. We're all in this together.

STRONGER TOGETHER.
GoFightWin, country. GoFightWin!