Wednesday, September 23, 2015


Tonight we move to Hospice House. We don't know how long he has, but we think it's the right move.

Because of Harvey's confusion/disorientation and because he's unsteady on his feet and we have stairs everywhere... I think it's time to have someone help me take care of him... He said "okay" when I explained things to him, but I think he's still processing everything...

While this feels like the right move, it also seems surreal. Whose life IS this? Surely my good husband Harvey is not near the end of his life! Surely I am not going to be a 53 year old widow. Surely our children are not going to lose their father... This can't be OUR life...

I know that there's no way for me to understand what's going to be on the other side of letting Harvey go... I know that I want him to stop being sick. I know that there aren't any good options. I also know that even though we'll grieve a lot and we will have a giant hole in our lives, we will be okay.

Thank you for praying for us...for loving us...

We love you.

10 comments:

Lynn McNamee said...

My heart grieves for you, Harvey, and your girls.

e.r. dinsmoor said...

Carrie, Thank you for sharing Harvey with us, for your love of people, for your graciousness and generosity in sharing this story so that others may reflect on their own adversities and be inspired to move forward just as you and your family will move forward when the Angels come to take Harvey home. I have no doubt that they will be his personal escort, because that's the sort of man he is, and the accomplishments in his life will always be a comforting memory when grief, like a thief in the night, comes calling.

I pray that you will find strength and comfort when Harvey makes his final transition leaving behind the love he has for his family, the love he had for people he didn't even know, and the love he had for the written word. This song below by Gordon True, "Heaven Got Another Angel Tonight" brought tears to my eyes as I think about you and your family in what is both an awful time, but yet the most sacred time in your lives as well. I hope it brings you some measure of peace in this the most difficult of life's moments.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hASQH9EfQA

Michael Seipp said...

May the peace and love of Christ be with you and Harvey always.

Michael Seipp said...

May the peace and love of Christ be with you and Harvey always.

Gabriella West said...

Dear Carrie, thinking of you. I only know Harvey from Kboards, but the site has made such a positive difference to so many. We feel like an extended family. I know this is such a difficult time, and I hope being able to express yourself on the blog gives you some comfort. It has certainly felt like a privilege to read it. My mom died at 57 and I was with her in her last days, so I have some sense of what the "last days" feel like. One is never ready for it to end, but we have to somehow roll with what comes.

Gabriella

Jamie Imus said...

When I heard the news last night, my heart broke. That's all. Just broke. I love y'all.

Grant White said...

Dear Carrie,

Although we have not seen Harvey in forever, please tell him that he is in our thoughts constantly. We have been very thankful for the regular updates on your blog, and have gone through all of the ups and downs with you all, if only in spirit.

Thank you to Harvey for his friendship to us both, and for that matter introducing Grant and I! I know I will be forever grateful for the integral part he played in our lives. Harvey is one of a kind, and will never be forgotten by anyone lucky enough to have known him.

Thanks also to you for the extremely honest and meaningful writing, during times of unbelievable adversity. You have inspired me, and shown me that courage is possible in any circumstance.

Our hearts go out to you, Harvey and the girls. I hope you can feel the outpouring of love we are sending to you and to Harvey as well.

We love you Harv!! See you again, our friend.

Grant and Michele

Grant White said...

Dear Carrie,

Although we have not seen Harvey in forever, please tell him that he is in our thoughts constantly. We have been very thankful for the regular updates on your blog, and have gone through all of the ups and downs with you all, if only in spirit.

Thank you to Harvey for his friendship to us both, and for that matter introducing Grant and I! I know I will be forever grateful for the integral part he played in our lives. Harvey is one of a kind, and will never be forgotten by anyone lucky enough to have known him.

Thanks also to you for the extremely honest and meaningful writing, during times of unbelievable adversity. You have inspired me, and shown me that courage is possible in any circumstance.

Our hearts go out to you, Harvey and the girls. I hope you can feel the outpouring of love we are sending to you and to Harvey as well.

We love you Harv!! See you again, our friend.

Grant and Michele

Leslie Nicoll said...

Thinking of you every minute and sending love and healing energy.

Leslie

Gennita said...

My prayers to you and yours, Carrie. Sending Harvey blessings for peaceful nights.